Monday, February 13, 2017

Valentine's Day For The Non-Romantic

You may have guessed this, but I'm not a romantic.

I grew up on a farm, and while others have always said it's the thought that counts, I'm much more impressed by physical labor and an eye for practicality. It's February in Ohio, and if a guy gave me a wood cord for Valentine's Day, I'd be impressed.

It's true that there might be a tinge of bitterness involved in my Valentine's Day thoughts. I wasn't an attractive pre-teen and don't remember getting anything for Valentine's Day until my junior year - by a guy who dumped me shortly thereafter, my first heartbreak.

As I often answer people who ask me why there's a distinct aversion to the happily-ever-after in my novels, it's because I'm divorced. I'll add that my ex's birthday is very close to Valentine's Day.

And - time for the zinger - my annual pap smear (to which we've recently added a mammogram) always lands around February 14, bringing an added layer of meaning to V-Day.

So yeah, not a fan.

But - I'm not against it either. I get love. I'm in love, for heaven's sake. I just happen to have fallen for a guy just like me, a guy who might bump his Corona against mine at dinner and say, "Oh yeah by the way, happy Valentine's Day." But he'll probably do it on Wednesday or Thursday because he often doesn't know what day of the week it is.

All that being said, I know there are romantics in the world and I don't deny them this day to celebrate. As a former Hallmark employee (long story) I actually get my back up a bit when Valentine's Day is referred to as a Hallmark Holiday. Valentine's Day has ancient historical roots, ones I won't bother linking off to here because I'm sure you'll find them everywhere tomorrow.

However, if you want to mark your calendars for my favorite made-up holiday, flip forward to October and make a note. October 14th is National Feral Cat Day.

On that day, I encourage you to find one, and hug it.

6 comments:

TeenLibrarianChristina said...

I love you Mindy. This is a great post! I'm laughing and also nodding my head, as I feel the same way about this holiday. Nice to learn about Feral Cat Day, awesome!

Tara Dairman said...

Haha, right there with you. <3

Mindy McGinnis said...

So the boyfriend came through - he asked me if I wanted eggs this morning and I said I was just going to get granola and he said, "I need you to want the eggs because that's my Valentine's gift to you." :)

Deb R.H. said...

There's no shortage of stray cats in my neighborhood. lol I call them direkitties.

I get pretty bitter around Valentine's Day myself. They even have Couples Day at my church, and I'm like, "Really?!"

Mindy McGinnis said...

Direkitties!!!!

I love it.

bj neary said...

Love this post, perfect for sharing with #YearofYA for our non-romantic Valentine's Day twitter chat 2/28